About

About Jessica Speer

Jessica Speer’s book, BFF or NRF (Not Really Friends)? A Girls Guide to Happy Friendships grew out of her friendship program that strengthens social awareness and helps kids learn to navigate common struggles. Her books engage and entertain readers by combining the stories of preteens and teens with fun activities and practical insights. She has a master’s degree in social sciences and focuses on exploring social-emotional topics in ways that connect with kids.

Jessica’s books are inspired by two central questions: How can she help kids thrive? and What does she wish she’d known when she was a kid? Her writing unpacks the tricky and awkward stuff that peaks during adolescence. She hopes that BFF or NRF (Not Really Friends) serves as a warm and supportive guide as girls journey through the inevitable bumps in their social worlds. 

Jessica is regularly featured in and contributes to media outlets on topics related to kids, parenting, and friendship. When she’s not typing away at her computer, she loves hiking, traveling, and spending time with family and friends.  She lives in the mountains of Colorado with her husband and two daughters.

“Relationships are where life really happens. Through relationships, including our relationship with ourselves,…we connect, we mess up, we grow and we learn to be our best.

Jessica Speer

Inspiring Thought Leaders:

Brene Brown (Daring to Lead, Daring Greatly, The Gifts of Imperfection, Rising Strong)

Lisa Damour (Untangled – Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood)

John Gottman (Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child)

Rachel Simmons (Enough as She Is, Odd Girl Out, The Curse of the Good Girl)

Rosalind Wiseman (Masterminds & Wingmen, Queen Bees & Wannabes, Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads)

Favorite Children’s Authors & Books:

Trudy Ludwig (My Secret Bully, Confessions of a Former Bully, Sorry, Too Perfect)

Kate DeCamillo (Because of Winn Dixie, Flora & Ulysses, Raymie Nightingale)

Jerry Spinelli (Stargirl, Love Stargirl)

RJ Palacio (Wonder)

“When parents offer their children empathy and help them to cope with negative feelings like anger, sadness, and fear, parents build bridges of loyalty and affection.”

John M. Gottman, Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child

“The best way to measure how much you’ve grown isn’t by inches or the number of laps you can now run around the track, or even your grade point average — though those things are important, to be sure. It’s what you’ve done with your time, how you’ve chosen to spend your days, and whom you’ve touched this year. That, to me, is the greatest measure of success.”

Auggie Pullman from R.J. Placio’s book, Wonder