As parents, it’s extremely hard to see our kids struggle. We want to alleviate their pain and solve problems, so we jump right in and offer quick solutions. But often, our efforts only make US feel better. And we miss the opportunity to help our kids navigate their emotions, feel heard and develop healthy relational skills. So how do we guide kids through friendship struggles – the Yoda way?
There are many things I wish I’d learner earlier as a parent, but helping my kids manage anger in a healthy way tops the list. Like many people, I grew up in a home where anger wasn’t managed in healthy way. So I had no tools to reference in this area. I’d try to remain calm during tantrums, but inevitably I’d get triggered and end up angry too. Eventually I found some great resources that helped me become a more emotionally intelligent role-model to my kids.