Do you ever offer your kids unsolicited advice or jump right in to help them solve their problems? Yeah, me too. Breaking the habit of trying to fix things for your kid is hard, especially if it was how you were raised...
Despite their increased desire for independence and privacy, tweens and teens need their parents support as much as ever. But how can parents stay connected between all of the eye rolls, closed doors and one word answers?
Are you more of an introvert or an extrovert? What about your child? Knowing your natural tendencies and those of your family will help you better understand and support your loved ones.
Okay, I have to admit that I’m writing this mostly for me. But I’m guessing that I’m not alone on this one. As a recovering perfectionist, I find that often the hardest person for me to forgive is myself. Anyone else ever experience this?..
Can you remember a time when you were struggling and someone really listened to you? Maybe they said, “That’s so hard” instead of giving you advice. Or maybe they shared a time when they felt the same way? They validated your experience, making you feel less alone...
It happened so fast. My usually cheerful daughter transitioned into a mood-filled teenager. We still see glimpses of her former self, but a more independent and intense aspect of her personality is emerging. Although this change has been surprising, it’s perfectly normal. And it’s prompted some changes to my parenting style to respect and embrace this new phase.
As parents, it’s extremely hard to see our kids struggle. We want to alleviate their pain and solve problems, so we jump right in and offer quick solutions. But often, our efforts only make US feel better. And we miss the opportunity to help our kids navigate their emotions, feel heard and develop healthy relational skills. So how do we guide kids through friendship struggles – the Yoda way?