Do emotional outbursts in your family tend to follow a certain pattern? Often in relationships, we get into a habit of reacting a certain way, even if it doesn’t work well. Strong emotions can be overwhelming for kids and parents…
As we sat around our dinner table last night, I posed this question to my family: “What’s at the top of your post-quarantine bucket list?”
The responses were heartfelt and simple: “Hang out with friends and neighbors, eat at a favorite restaurant, go to the library, walk to the ice cream shop, get back to a sports practice or fitness routine.
It’s only been a few weeks, but the nostalgia for these regular activities was apparent.
Do you ever offer your kids unsolicited advice or jump right in to help them solve their problems? Yeah, me too. Breaking the habit of trying to fix things for your kid is hard, especially if it was how you were raised…
Despite their increased desire for independence and privacy, tweens and teens need their parents support as much as ever. But how can parents stay connected between all of the eye rolls, closed doors and one word answers?
Are you more of an introvert or an extrovert? What about your child? Knowing your natural tendencies and those of your family will help you better understand and support your loved ones.
Okay, I have to admit that I’m writing this mostly for me. But I’m guessing that I’m not alone on this one.
As a recovering perfectionist, I find that often the hardest person for me to forgive is myself. Anyone else ever experience this?..
Can you remember a time when you were struggling and someone really listened to you? Maybe they said, “That’s so hard” instead of giving you advice. Or maybe they shared a time when they felt the same way? They validated your experience, making you feel less alone…
It happened so fast. My usually cheerful daughter transitioned into a mood-filled teenager. We still see glimpses of her former self, but a more independent and intense aspect of her personality is emerging. Although this change has been surprising, it’s perfectly normal. And it’s prompted some changes to my parenting style to respect and embrace this new phase.
As parents, it’s extremely hard to see our kids struggle. We want to alleviate their pain and solve problems, so we jump right in and offer quick solutions. But often, our efforts only make US feel better. And we miss the opportunity to help our kids navigate their emotions, feel heard and develop healthy relational skills.
So how do we guide kids through friendship struggles – the Yoda way?
There are so many things I love about this Parenting Manifesto by Brene Brown. I’ve read this to my kids and they love it too. Thank you Brene for sharing this beautiful reminder of the path to deeper connection and joy!