Some people tend to give others the benefit of the doubt, while other people tend to assign blame and assume bad intent. Which style has more positive relationships and overall happiness?
This year, I decided to do something different for Valentine’s Day. Instead of the usual box of chocolates or small gifts for my daughters (ages 11 and 13) and husband, I sent them each a daily text for the two weeks leading up to February 14…
As we begin a new year and new decade, I’m once again setting the intention to speak wisely. Or as author Don Miguel Ruiz describes in his book, The Four Agreements, “Be impeccable with your word. Don’t make assumptions. Don’t take anything personally. Do your best.” (Deep breath…this is no small undertaking! And likely a lifelong journey.)
Despite their increased desire for independence and privacy, tweens and teens need their parents support as much as ever. But how can parents stay connected between all of the eye rolls, closed doors and one word answers?
Urban Dictionary defines RESPECT as “Treating others in a dignified manner.”
This definition does not conjure up images of my childhood. Like many, I grew up in a home filled with name calling, fighting, blaming and other forms of disrespect…
Okay, I have to admit that I created this list mostly for me. As a consummate task-master, I need all the reminders I can get to monitor my overactive “Get’er done” mode. When I’m in the mode, I have a hard time snapping out of it. Yes, it’s awesome to get stuff done, but notContinue reading “5 Ways to Feel More Connected to Your Family Today”
After a quick poll of my friends, I couldn’t find any with positive memories of “The Talk” with their parents when they were kids. Instead, I found knowledge about human reproduction was gathered in a variety of ways, including: the 5th grade school talk, details gathered from friends (often incorrect), books left discretely on bedside tables, movies, adult magazines, etc.
Needless to say, family conversations about changing bodies, reproduction and sexual health were rare and uncomfortable for my generation.
Quick Quiz: Which of these statements would you rather have said to you?
“You need to help out more. I’ve been doing all the work around here lately.”
“I feel overwhelmed lately by all of the work I’ve been doing around here. Can we talk about that?”
As a child who grew up in the 70’s and 80’s, I missed the whole Emotional Intelligence (EQ) bus. My family didn’t talk about emotions or practice how to regulate them in a healthy way.
So when my kids were babies, I realized I had a lot to learn to help my family (and myself) develop EQ.
We all have relationships that are challenging at times. Maybe it’s with our partner, our child, a co-worker or a relative. When relationships are tough, we tend to think, “If only they would ___________ , things would be better.” Ahhh, if only we could change other people. Life would be so much easier, right? WellContinue reading “The Only Thing You Can Control is Yourself, But That is Incredibly Powerful”