Four Relationship Skills that are Important for Families (That are Not Taught in School)

There’s scientific evidence that healthy relationships are foundational to a healthy life. But in childhood or as a young adult did you ever learn the skills that lead to healthy relationships? Me neither…

My Most Meaningful Baby Gift – Birthday Letter Book

Way back at my baby shower in 2006, I received a simple book filled with blank pages. The instructions read, “Every year, write a birthday letter to your child and add it to the book. When they turn 21, give them the book as a tribute to their childhood.”
So, on my daughter’s first birthday, I started writing…

The Yoda Way to Guide Kids through Friendship Struggles

As parents, it’s extremely hard to see our kids struggle. We want to alleviate their pain and solve problems, so we jump right in and offer quick solutions. But often, our efforts only make US feel better. And we miss the opportunity to help our kids navigate their emotions, feel heard and develop healthy relational skills.
So how do we guide kids through friendship struggles – the Yoda way?

5 Ways to Feel More Connected to Your Family Today

Okay, I have to admit that I created this list mostly for me. As a consummate task-master, I need all the reminders I can get to monitor my overactive “Get’er done” mode.  When I’m in the mode, I have a hard time snapping out of it. Yes, it’s awesome to get stuff done, but notContinue reading “5 Ways to Feel More Connected to Your Family Today”

The Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto

There are so many things I love about this Parenting Manifesto by Brene Brown. I’ve read this to my kids and they love it too. Thank you Brene for sharing this beautiful reminder of the path to deeper connection and joy!

Belonging Vs. Fitting-In at School…and at Home

The past few months, I’ve been spending time in classrooms doing research for my new book. I’m exploring the “weird stuff” that happens in middle school. I’ve asked over 100 tweens and teens, what should be included in this book and the responses have been powerful. The most frequently shared response is….JUDGEMENT. Not surprisingly, judgmentContinue reading “Belonging Vs. Fitting-In at School…and at Home”

Helping Children Learn to Work Through Anger in a Healthy Way

There are many things I wish I’d learner earlier as a parent, but helping my kids manage anger in a healthy way tops the list. Like many people, I grew up in a home where anger wasn’t managed in healthy way. So I had no tools to reference in this area. I’d try to remain calm during tantrums, but inevitably I’d get triggered and end up angry too. Eventually I found some great resources that helped me become a more emotionally intelligent role-model to my kids.

Mean or Bullying Behavior? Helping Kids Understand the Difference

I’ve found that many kids have a hard time differentiating between bullying and mean behavior. Understanding this difference helps kids know how to navigate each situation…

What if the Point of Parenting, and All Relationships, is Really About Growth?

There are several parenting lessons I wish I’d figured out earlier. For instance, how to navigate toddler tantrums and help my daughter work through anger in a healthy way.  I figured out that lesson about three years later than I wish I had…

Six Tips to Create a Home Where “The Talk” with Your Kids is Not Awkward (Or At Least A Lot Less Awkward)

After a quick poll of my friends, I couldn’t find any with positive memories of “The Talk” with their parents when they were kids. Instead, I found knowledge about human reproduction was gathered in a variety of ways, including: the 5th grade school talk,  details gathered from friends (often incorrect), books left discretely on bedside tables, movies, adult magazines, etc.

Needless to say, family conversations about changing bodies, reproduction and sexual health were rare and uncomfortable for my generation.